Be Careful What You Wish For!

All you wanted was love; what you got was the illusion of love and now you’re suffering from devastating effects of being hurt. That is the nature of human love, it can be warm and inviting one minute, cold and malicious the next, all in one neatly wrapped package.
Let me tell you something, ladies and gentlemen. Beware of the illusion of love. When someone really loved you there is no second guessing. If you have to ask yourself if he/she loves you, then he/she doesn’t really love you. I say this because love can be seen through its expression. When we love, we care and we are always showing the person through examples.
Sex isn’t love, so don’t get it twisted. If a man likes to have sex with you all the time, that doesn’t mean he loves you. Same thing goes for men, if a woman just likes you for your sex, she doesn’t love you. Many people get that confused with love and you would be surprised at how many of us actually settle and believe that’s all there is. Words can have multiple meanings and expression is the truest form of honesty. We have to look beyond what’s masked and ask ourselves is this real? Or is this an illusion I’ve created? Of course we want to believe in something that’s greater than ourselves but don’t be fooled and don’t be a fool! Until next time…….

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Thoughts 04/02/2014

When the sun meets the sky I feel like that’s the greatest moment. The most pure thoughts cross my mind. The memories of yesterday find it’s place and I feel enthusiastic about today. The present.—-Written by Kimberly Reynolds

Tip of the day: Seize the moment and let the past find it’s place. Until next time…..

Our Natural Gift And Talent

Sometimes the heart has to be stronger than the mind and vice versa. There are many temptations in life. Those miniature things that cause enormous pain after the high wears off. Us, as humans have many gifts and talents and one is common sense and another instinct. When a situation arises and rattles your soul and every inch of you feels it’s wrong, nine times out of ten it surely is. When you get that jolt of energy and your mind and body are like “go for it” do what it takes to get it done. Your spirit is trying to communicate what your body really needs to stay happy. Some of us ignore that inner voice that tells us what we really need. The world is so fast pace that we forget our gift to use what we were naturally born with. That is our luck, that is our guide, it is our way out of misery, it is our own piece of happiness. Our ability to use common sense and instict. Take time to listen to what your body and spirit really needs. All the mistakes we’ve made and learned from, all the ups and downs, all the joys and misfortunes, your mind, body, and soul have connected with those things and pushes you to see clearly, to evaluate, to learn, to act, to seek, to do what’s best for you!! Bring back the strength of your inner voice and see the changes. Your feelings are valid and so are your thoughts. There’s that light in all of us and it’s natural…..it’s human. Until next time……..

Stress Relievers

Sex can be a very effective stress reliever. Orgasm itself has many benefits. The sedative and relaxing effects of oxytocin and other endorphins released during orgasm may explain why people find it easy to fall asleep after intercourse. But sex doesn’t have to lead to orgasm in order to release stress: simply being intimate with your partner is sometimes all it takes to soothe and relax you. 

A chaotic home that’s crowded with possessions could be adding to your stress. Introduce calm by de-cluttering, especially in the bedroom. Your bedroom should be a peaceful haven for sleep, sex, and intimacy not a storeroom for piles of clothes, books, or old sports memorabilia. Clear out unnecessary clutter, move your laptop or television to another room, and bring in a few luxurious accents, such as scented candles, plush pillows, soft sheets,and dimmers.

Make time for exercise. Physical activity can increase the production of your brain’s feel-good neurotransmitters, called endorphins.

Take your allotted vacation time. Make sure that you take all the accumulated days you are owed. Until next time……..

Remarkable Oils For The Hair

 

 

 

 

Egg whites help your hair by giving it a punch of protein. There are many variations of this at-home treatment but here’s a good general recipe to follow: 

Step 1 

Use a whisk or a mixer to beat egg whites until they are white and foamy, about two minutes. 

Step 2 

Fold in plain yogurt (using plain real yogurt with no flavoring or extras added is better), one spoonful at a time, mixing gently until the ingredients are completely incorporated and form a thick, creamy paste. (Mayo can work as a substitute or combined) 

In this step you can add any essential oils (jojoba, moroccan, palm, castor, sweet almond all work well)you like or other hair-friendly ingredients. 

Cucumber: Cucumber contains ascorbic acid (Vitamin C) and caffeic acid, fiber, along with minerals like silica, potassium and magnesium. Silica is renowned to be good for the hair. 

Olive Oil: great for conditioning and shine. Honey can also be combined with Olive Oil on hair to make the results that much more effective. 

Avocado : Avocado contains mono-saturated fats, which not only if ingested helps to burn trans-fats it can help give your hair strength and sheen 

Pure Coconut Oil: A really good one! Coconut oil contains many good ingredients for your hair: 
– One of the most responsible reasons behind hair fall and hair loss is microbial action on the scalp and hair roots. So, to protect hair against them, what we need is an antimicrobial agent. Lauric Acid present in Coconut Oil is one of them. It is basically a triglyceride which yields a monoglyceride called Monolaurin when acted upon by a species of bacteria which breaks the glycerol bonds. This monolaurin has excellent antimicrobial properties. 

– Capric Acid is yet another triglyceride present in Coconut oil, which, like Lauric Acid, yields another monoglyceride called Monocaprin due to bacterial action, having antimicrobial properties similar to that of monolaurin. 

-Vitamin-E. Almost every aptly educated person knows the importance of vitamin-E for skin and hair. It keeps scalp and skin healthy and hair rejuvenated. 

-Coconut Oil has high moisture retaining capacity, since it is not broken down easily nor evaporated, being very stable. It does not let moisture escape thus keeping hair moistened and soft. This prevents breakage of hair. Coconut Oil is a far better conditioner for hair than any synthetic one available in the market. 
-he various fatty acids present in Coconut Oil serve as very good anti dandruff agents and are way better than any anti dandruff shampoo. A regular application can help you get rid of dandruffs for ever. 

Step 3 

Use your fingers to scoop up the mixture and apply it to your hair. Massage your scalp, taking care to thoroughly coat all your hair with the mask and cover in plastic wrap/bag. Let the mixture sit on your hair for 15 minutes. 

Tip For Today 02/22/2014

Getting kids to exercise can be a fun experience for the whole family. The benefits of exercising can be quite rewarding and fun! With obesity in children climbing to all time highs now is the time to get everyone involved in their own personal health. Giving your children the foundation to a healthy start in life takes stress off you as a parent. A list of benefits for adults and children are listed below: 

• Reduces your risk of heart disease, improving blood cholesterol levels and preventing or managing high blood pressure
• Lowers your risk of diabetes
• Increases bone strength
• Boosts energy levels
• Helps manage stress
• Improves your ability to fall asleep quickly and sleep well
• Increases muscles’ strength, improving your ability to do other physical activities
• Improves self-image and overall sense of well-being
• Establishes good heart-healthy habits for life

Fight To Love

This is much healthier for your relationship than fighting to win. When couples fight to win, each partner wants satisfaction of being right. But here is the tea:  no matter how you feel, you are always right in feeling that way. There is no wrong or right emotion. Once couples do away with the idea that their feelings aren’t valid unless they win, they can discuss the issue at hand. Don’t waste time placing blame or trying to figure out whose feelings are valid. 

Fights are a healthy part of any relationship, whether you disagree about spending habits or how often you have sex, it’s important to be able to see your partner’s point of view, as well as express your particular needs.

Arguments can often benefit from some space and rest. Sometimes a good night’s sleep can give both of you the patience to better communicate about an issue rather than staying up for hours hashing it out. Even if it means taking 10 minutes to leave the room and cool down. Time apart gives you time to reflect and re-evaluate the situation. Forcing a resolution or continuing an argument until tempers are out of control is never a good idea. AND TAKING YOUR ARGUMENT INTO THE BEDROOM IS NOT SMART EITHER! Your bedroom should be a place of sanctuary, passion, and romance for both of you. Save your arguments for elsewhere, and keep the oiled wrestling and play fighting for the bedroom. Until next time……….

Reconnect With Your Lover

Vacations are vital for helping us to unwind and recharge our batteries, but most couples use up their vacation days on trips that simply aren’t relaxing. Taking the children to the beach or to visit their grandparents is fun, but it is hardly a sensual, romantic break. Not to mention that, in between packing everyone’s swimsuits, finding lost bottles, and refereeing the children’s fights in the backseat, you barely have a moments peace. The same is true for traveling with in-laws, who are likely to exhaust not only your energy, but also your reserves of patience and diplomacy.
Couples trips should be a must in every relationship. Time alone with your partner somewhere different and romantic will help you to slip out of your usual roles and routines. When you strip away the to-do lists and the stress, you will finally be able to simply be with your lover. Not only will this give you an opportunity to reconnect with your mate on an emotional level, but it will provide a chance to reconnect on a physical level as well. They don’t call it vacation sex for nothing!!!! Until next time………

Boost Your Low Libido ;-)

One of the main reasons for a low libido is that sex becomes too routine or chore like. If you want your sex life to be fun and spicy, you have to put in the work to make it that way! Bring sex into the equation as often as possible, even if you don’t really feel in the mood at first. It’s surprising how quickly your body warms up once you get started, and the more often you and your partner have sex, the more you will crave it. Take each other by surprise by making advances when your lover least expects it.
You don’t have to go for full intercourse every time just enjoy exploring each other’s bodies and making sexual contact. </em>

Roles You Play!!!

In every relationship, there are obvious roles and responsibilities that help couples go about their daily lives. However, sometimes partners unwittingly take on roles that don’t suit them.
All couples consciously or subconsciously take on certain roles within a relationship. Usually these roles enable you both to utilize your separate talents and satisfy a need to express your personality. Roles tend to evolve as you settle into a relationship and take on what comes naturally to you so you may or may not be aware of them.
Think about roles you play in your relationship. Perhaps you are the problem solver, nurturer, comedian, or worrier. Or maybe you are the cynic, champion, organizer, or disciplinarian. If you find it difficult to identify your roles, think about your typical interactions with your partner. Do you find yourself supporting your partner, flattering them, or making them laugh?
Often your roles complement one another by pooling your resources you work better as a team and enjoy a more rounded, fulfilling relationship. For instance, if one of you is naturally cautious and uncertain, the other is likely to adopt a more positive, upbeat role. If one tends to be more gregarious and emotional, the other is more calm and diplomatic.
Roles should allow you to use your personal talents and showcase your unique abilities. You can supplement and nurture one another in a way that keeps your relationship healthy and dynamic.
Negative roles can get in the way of intimacy and conflict resolution. It almost always leads to stress! It’s very important for you to realize which roles you tend to adopt.
Examples of more roles will be in my next post, stay tuned!!! Until next time………