There comes a defining moment when it’s time to let go. Let go all the insanity, the hurt feelings, the worry and pain. Sometimes it hurt so bad that you feel like you will never be whole and able again. You cry, you search for answers but the pieces are still broken. All the warmth and love you once felt has burned with all the memories that you’ve cherished. Som
etimes the strength doesn’t come fast enough and you find yourself longing for them again. So you stay.
The pattern, the problems, the distrust returns and you remember why you wanted to leave in the first place. You’re so afraid of change because you’ve been so comfortable with the familiar. You long for love, you dream of the relationship you want and still your feet won’t move. You somehow convinced yourself that mediocre and settling for less is okay. You trick your mind into thinking that what you want is too selfish or your feelings are not valid. The love you have for them goes deeper than yourself, you share seeds that you want to prosper and grow. You battle your temptations because the grass does look mighty green. You vent to deaf ears and empty minds because you’re scared of what any sensible
person would say. You know they would tell you what you already know. The truth.

Written By: Kimberly Reynolds
08/13/15

Be Careful What You Wish For!

All you wanted was love; what you got was the illusion of love and now you’re suffering from devastating effects of being hurt. That is the nature of human love, it can be warm and inviting one minute, cold and malicious the next, all in one neatly wrapped package.
Let me tell you something, ladies and gentlemen. Beware of the illusion of love. When someone really loved you there is no second guessing. If you have to ask yourself if he/she loves you, then he/she doesn’t really love you. I say this because love can be seen through its expression. When we love, we care and we are always showing the person through examples.
Sex isn’t love, so don’t get it twisted. If a man likes to have sex with you all the time, that doesn’t mean he loves you. Same thing goes for men, if a woman just likes you for your sex, she doesn’t love you. Many people get that confused with love and you would be surprised at how many of us actually settle and believe that’s all there is. Words can have multiple meanings and expression is the truest form of honesty. We have to look beyond what’s masked and ask ourselves is this real? Or is this an illusion I’ve created? Of course we want to believe in something that’s greater than ourselves but don’t be fooled and don’t be a fool! Until next time…….

Give A Compliment

Men and women need compliments to boost their confidence and increase their sense of self-worth. Of course you don’t think your partner looks fat in that dress, but you wish she wouldn’t ask you that question every time you’re about to go out. The best way to reassure her and dissuade her from these persistent anxieties is simply to give her compliments throughout the week without being prompted.

Tell her she looks beautiful before she leaves for work in the morning, or compliment a new hairstyle or outfit. Be sincere. False compliments are easy to spot. So find something you genuinely admire about your partner’s appearance and tell her—if it’s the way her boobs look in that top, go ahead and say so. It’s a romantic gesture that will give her a boost for the rest of the day. Obviously women are not the only ones who enjoy this form of flattery so pay him compliments, too. Whether it’s the way he looks in his new jeans or his skill cooking steaks, he’ll like to know that you’ve noticed. Until next time…..

Stress Relievers

Sex can be a very effective stress reliever. Orgasm itself has many benefits. The sedative and relaxing effects of oxytocin and other endorphins released during orgasm may explain why people find it easy to fall asleep after intercourse. But sex doesn’t have to lead to orgasm in order to release stress: simply being intimate with your partner is sometimes all it takes to soothe and relax you. 

A chaotic home that’s crowded with possessions could be adding to your stress. Introduce calm by de-cluttering, especially in the bedroom. Your bedroom should be a peaceful haven for sleep, sex, and intimacy not a storeroom for piles of clothes, books, or old sports memorabilia. Clear out unnecessary clutter, move your laptop or television to another room, and bring in a few luxurious accents, such as scented candles, plush pillows, soft sheets,and dimmers.

Make time for exercise. Physical activity can increase the production of your brain’s feel-good neurotransmitters, called endorphins.

Take your allotted vacation time. Make sure that you take all the accumulated days you are owed. Until next time……..

You Look Hot!!!!

As a long-term couple you know each other inside and out and have seen each other looking at your best and your worst. But although it seem unnecessary, in fact you should never give up courting your mate. You should never reach a point where you think ” I don’t need to attract her anymore”. Love is blind, true, but love also thrives on beauty, sexuality, and physical attraction. 

Putting time and effort into your appearance is worthwhile and necessary for a sizzling, sexy relationship. When you go out on a date, think about what you are going to wear. Spend time in the mirror. Have your hair or nails done. Wear a bra that boosts your cleavage. Put on a shirt you know she likes and spray on some cologne. Make sure that your body simply cries out for a kiss goodnight…..and maybe much more! Your appearance should signal that the night is special.

No matter how long you have been together, dating should still be an essential part of your relationship. It helps you to stay bonded with your spouse, both emotionally and physically, and it keeps your relationship vital, fun, and intimate. So make the commitment to go steady and no matter what just enjoy yourselves!!!! Until next time……….

Selflessness Is A Conscious Effort!!

Thinking of someone else might not come naturally at first. But the more often you can put “we” before “me”, the easier it will become. Thoughtfulness is about giving more than you take, and keeping your lover at the forefront of your mind you will start to think automatically of his or her needs and feelings first. This mindful generosity fosters mutual appreciation, respect, and love-creating  the perfect environment for romance and intimacy to flourish.

Make a commitment to doing something thoughtful for your partner a few times a week. That doesn’t mean bringing home chocolates and roses(Although it doesn’t hurt). It simply involves doing something selfless or sweet. Whether it’s making the bed or sending him or her the perfect I love you email for no reason in the middle of the day. Just taking five minutes out your day to do something nice for your partner can improve the climate of your love.

Even when you have everything else on your mind-feeding the children, bills to pay, a job to do– make thoughtfulness toward your lover a priority each and every day. It will create positive changes in your relationship and beyond! Until next time……..

Fight To Love

This is much healthier for your relationship than fighting to win. When couples fight to win, each partner wants satisfaction of being right. But here is the tea:  no matter how you feel, you are always right in feeling that way. There is no wrong or right emotion. Once couples do away with the idea that their feelings aren’t valid unless they win, they can discuss the issue at hand. Don’t waste time placing blame or trying to figure out whose feelings are valid. 

Fights are a healthy part of any relationship, whether you disagree about spending habits or how often you have sex, it’s important to be able to see your partner’s point of view, as well as express your particular needs.

Arguments can often benefit from some space and rest. Sometimes a good night’s sleep can give both of you the patience to better communicate about an issue rather than staying up for hours hashing it out. Even if it means taking 10 minutes to leave the room and cool down. Time apart gives you time to reflect and re-evaluate the situation. Forcing a resolution or continuing an argument until tempers are out of control is never a good idea. AND TAKING YOUR ARGUMENT INTO THE BEDROOM IS NOT SMART EITHER! Your bedroom should be a place of sanctuary, passion, and romance for both of you. Save your arguments for elsewhere, and keep the oiled wrestling and play fighting for the bedroom. Until next time……….

Advice Teusday/ Forgive N Forget

Honesty and trust require forgiveness. Your partner needs to feel that he or she will not be judged or criticized simply for being honest, or admonished for admitting mistakes. We all have flaws, so try not to expect perfection from your partner.
It’s important that you avoid overreacting to minor transgressions. When you attack your partner for making mistakes, you give him or her the message that anything less than perfection is unacceptable to you. This is an impossible ideal for your partner to attain. You don’t have to forgive automatically, but try to make light of small misdemeanors. Focus on your partner’s good points, rather than his or her shortcomings for the good of your relationship. Until next time……..

Reconnect With Your Lover

Vacations are vital for helping us to unwind and recharge our batteries, but most couples use up their vacation days on trips that simply aren’t relaxing. Taking the children to the beach or to visit their grandparents is fun, but it is hardly a sensual, romantic break. Not to mention that, in between packing everyone’s swimsuits, finding lost bottles, and refereeing the children’s fights in the backseat, you barely have a moments peace. The same is true for traveling with in-laws, who are likely to exhaust not only your energy, but also your reserves of patience and diplomacy.
Couples trips should be a must in every relationship. Time alone with your partner somewhere different and romantic will help you to slip out of your usual roles and routines. When you strip away the to-do lists and the stress, you will finally be able to simply be with your lover. Not only will this give you an opportunity to reconnect with your mate on an emotional level, but it will provide a chance to reconnect on a physical level as well. They don’t call it vacation sex for nothing!!!! Until next time………

Boost Your Low Libido ;-)

One of the main reasons for a low libido is that sex becomes too routine or chore like. If you want your sex life to be fun and spicy, you have to put in the work to make it that way! Bring sex into the equation as often as possible, even if you don’t really feel in the mood at first. It’s surprising how quickly your body warms up once you get started, and the more often you and your partner have sex, the more you will crave it. Take each other by surprise by making advances when your lover least expects it.
You don’t have to go for full intercourse every time just enjoy exploring each other’s bodies and making sexual contact. </em>