Challenge gender/sex behavior

Your past influence not only your emotional interactions within relationships, but also your sexual behavior. What you learned as a child about gender and how male and female roles are defined in the bedroom can limit your sexual experiences as adults. A woman’s sexuality is to be wondered and respected. Sex and orgasms are part of the life force, part of what makes us human. Yet many women grown up with the idea that “nice” women don’t pursue sexual pleasure. Society has even stigmatized women who enjoy sex and revel in their sexuality as promiscuous and wanton. These ideas stem from ignorance and have no place in modern society, but they still do exist.
And while women grapple with repressing their sexuality, men are expected not only to enjoy sex, but also to crave it day and night. Manhood is equated with voracious sexual appetite, so when a man has sexual difficulties or lacks interest in sex he feels as if he has failed. Whether he has a physical problem(such as gaining or maintaining an erection) or an emotional one, he will often suffer in silence. Men might be reluctant to voice their anxieties, doubts, or needs for fear of seeming weak or effeminate, while women may shy away from asking for what they want for fear of seeming too aggressive.

So the homework for you is to discuss what you learned as children about sex and gender, discard old unhelpful ideas, such as women shouldn’t initiate sex or men should be the main earners. It’s never too late to start creating new lessons for yourself and your family, and to draw positive gains from difficult past experiences! Until next time………..

Mind Blowing Sex

Try these moves for mind-blowing sex.

There’s nothing worse than being in a relationship with a great guy where only one of you enjoys “getting it on.” Nine times out of ten, your man will reach climax before you do, leaving you bored and unsatisfied. That’s why I want to give my eight best positions from the Bad Girl’s Bible for reaching climaxing with your man.

 

 

1. “Cowgirl.” This is probably the easiest and simplest sex position to reach orgasm with your man. To perform the cowgirl, he needs to lie down on his back. You then straddle him on your knees while facing him. When you are in this position, you have a lot of control, which means that you can lean forwards or backwards or side-to-side to change his angle of entry. You can also change the depth at which he’s penetrating you by pushing yourself up with your legs or lowering yourself down onto him. You’ll find that cowgirl is one of the best sex positions for clitoral orgasms — vaginal ones are a little trickier.

2. “High Impact.” This is a variation of the position that I just covered above. To try it, your man will still be lieing down on his back, but instead of straddling him on your knees, you are going to be squatting down onto him and using your hands to steady yourself. You will be holding yourself just above him; you won’t be sitting down on him. To change angles, you can lean forwards and put your hands on his stomach to balance yourself or you can lean backwards to put your hands behind you. You will be pretty much holding yourself in this position while your man starts rapidly trusting in and out of you with short strokes. If you lean backwards while in this position, your man will be hitting your G spot.

3. “G Spot Sniper.” The name might be a bit of a giveaway! To perform this position, you need lie on your back while your man is on his knees. He then grabs your hips and lifts them upwards off the bed. Your feet should now be pointing towards the ceiling and your legs should straight. Your man then enters you. He just needs to thrust so that the head of his penis is hitting the top wall of your vagina — allegedly where your G spot is. To accomplish this properly, he needs to make sure that his thrusts are shallow, not deep. Click here to see a visual demonstration of this position.

4. “The Lotus.” This position, while incredibly intimate, also makes it easy for you to orgasm. To perform it, your man must first sit down in a yoga pose with legs crossed. You sit down on his lap facing him, wrapping your legs and arms around him. You can then slowly grind up and down on him, stimulating your clit. To be perfectly honest, the lotus is one of the more difficult sex positions listed in these eight, but the deep, bonding intimacy you experience only makes it worth it. 

5. “Spooning.” Spooning is a great sex position for close, sensual sex with your man. To spoon, you both need to lie on your sides facing in the same direction with him behind you. He then just needs to slowly thrust in and out with a consistent rhythm. While doing this, he can reach around and start gently rubbing and massaging your clitoris with his fingers, bringing you to orgasm.

6. “The Anvil.” If you like being dominated by your man during sex, this position is for you. To perform the anvil, lie down on your back. Next, raise your legs in the air and use your arms to pull them back towards yourself. Your man will be on his knees and will lean right over you. You can then rest your ankles on his shoulders, so that he is pushing them back on top of you. In this position, he will be able to penetrate you deeper than you could have imagined.7. “The CAT.” The coital alignment technique is very similar to regular missionary sex, but with a few variations. He needs to remain quite deep inside you while you push your pubic bone against him. Then instead of thrusting so much, he needs to grind on you, giving you a lot of stimulation to your clitoris. This makes the coital alignment technique one of the best sex positions for having a clitoral orgasm. It’s also really easy to transition to this position from missionary.

8. “The Jockey.” This one is easy for a woman: just lie back, relax and enjoy it. To perform the jockey sex position, you need lie on your stomach with your rear end raised. Your man then straddles you on his knees and enters you. In this position, your man can penetrate you with a lot of force. This is great for those who climax from really passionate or even rough sex.

Does Size Matter?

This is where you are expecting me to say no, the size of the penis doesn’t matter very reassuringly. But the truth is: it does matter. Whether too big or too small( remembering that these are relative terms), the size of the penis can interfere with optimal pleasure for both partners. I can still be reassuring, however: whatever the size, the issues that arise are totally solvable.

USE THE SUGGESTIONS BELOW!

If your partner is TOO BIG:

* Use positions that keep penetration shallower, and positions that give you control

* Use plenty of lubricant

* Take your time, and make sure you are fully relaxed and aroused before you begin intercourse

IF YOUR PARTNER IS too small

* Put a lot of emphasis on foreplay

*Choose positions that optimize clitoral stimulation

* Use the squeeze method- the actual squeeze portion during intercourse

with these tricks up your sleeve, it won’t matter that size matters.