Challenge gender/sex behavior

Your past influence not only your emotional interactions within relationships, but also your sexual behavior. What you learned as a child about gender and how male and female roles are defined in the bedroom can limit your sexual experiences as adults. A woman’s sexuality is to be wondered and respected. Sex and orgasms are part of the life force, part of what makes us human. Yet many women grown up with the idea that “nice” women don’t pursue sexual pleasure. Society has even stigmatized women who enjoy sex and revel in their sexuality as promiscuous and wanton. These ideas stem from ignorance and have no place in modern society, but they still do exist.
And while women grapple with repressing their sexuality, men are expected not only to enjoy sex, but also to crave it day and night. Manhood is equated with voracious sexual appetite, so when a man has sexual difficulties or lacks interest in sex he feels as if he has failed. Whether he has a physical problem(such as gaining or maintaining an erection) or an emotional one, he will often suffer in silence. Men might be reluctant to voice their anxieties, doubts, or needs for fear of seeming weak or effeminate, while women may shy away from asking for what they want for fear of seeming too aggressive.

So the homework for you is to discuss what you learned as children about sex and gender, discard old unhelpful ideas, such as women shouldn’t initiate sex or men should be the main earners. It’s never too late to start creating new lessons for yourself and your family, and to draw positive gains from difficult past experiences! Until next time………..

Be Alert! High Blood Pressure

High blood pressure can affect the brain, eyes, heart, and kidneys. If you have high blood pressure that is not being treated, you have a higher risk of having a heart attack, stroke, kidney failure, and blindness.
Here are some tips to lower your risk for problems:
Know your blood pressure level. Normal blood pressure is lower than 120/80 mmHg. Get your blood pressure checked at least once every 2 years if it is normal. If it is higher than normal, ask your doctor how often you should have it checked.
Know your risk. You are more likely to get high blood pressure if you are older than 65, are African American , or have parents or grandparents who have high blood pressure. You also have a higher risk if you are overweight or have diabetes. If any of these things are true for you, ask your doctor how often you should have your blood pressure checked.
If you take drugs to control your blood pressure, take them as directed by your doctor.
If you are a woman, limit alcohol to no more than 1 drink a day. Men should have no more than 2 drinks a day.

Remember: Sometimes you can’t tell if you have high blood pressure. You may need to have your doctor check it. Until next time ……

Mind Blowing Sex

Try these moves for mind-blowing sex.

There’s nothing worse than being in a relationship with a great guy where only one of you enjoys “getting it on.” Nine times out of ten, your man will reach climax before you do, leaving you bored and unsatisfied. That’s why I want to give my eight best positions from the Bad Girl’s Bible for reaching climaxing with your man.

 

 

1. “Cowgirl.” This is probably the easiest and simplest sex position to reach orgasm with your man. To perform the cowgirl, he needs to lie down on his back. You then straddle him on your knees while facing him. When you are in this position, you have a lot of control, which means that you can lean forwards or backwards or side-to-side to change his angle of entry. You can also change the depth at which he’s penetrating you by pushing yourself up with your legs or lowering yourself down onto him. You’ll find that cowgirl is one of the best sex positions for clitoral orgasms — vaginal ones are a little trickier.

2. “High Impact.” This is a variation of the position that I just covered above. To try it, your man will still be lieing down on his back, but instead of straddling him on your knees, you are going to be squatting down onto him and using your hands to steady yourself. You will be holding yourself just above him; you won’t be sitting down on him. To change angles, you can lean forwards and put your hands on his stomach to balance yourself or you can lean backwards to put your hands behind you. You will be pretty much holding yourself in this position while your man starts rapidly trusting in and out of you with short strokes. If you lean backwards while in this position, your man will be hitting your G spot.

3. “G Spot Sniper.” The name might be a bit of a giveaway! To perform this position, you need lie on your back while your man is on his knees. He then grabs your hips and lifts them upwards off the bed. Your feet should now be pointing towards the ceiling and your legs should straight. Your man then enters you. He just needs to thrust so that the head of his penis is hitting the top wall of your vagina — allegedly where your G spot is. To accomplish this properly, he needs to make sure that his thrusts are shallow, not deep. Click here to see a visual demonstration of this position.

4. “The Lotus.” This position, while incredibly intimate, also makes it easy for you to orgasm. To perform it, your man must first sit down in a yoga pose with legs crossed. You sit down on his lap facing him, wrapping your legs and arms around him. You can then slowly grind up and down on him, stimulating your clit. To be perfectly honest, the lotus is one of the more difficult sex positions listed in these eight, but the deep, bonding intimacy you experience only makes it worth it. 

5. “Spooning.” Spooning is a great sex position for close, sensual sex with your man. To spoon, you both need to lie on your sides facing in the same direction with him behind you. He then just needs to slowly thrust in and out with a consistent rhythm. While doing this, he can reach around and start gently rubbing and massaging your clitoris with his fingers, bringing you to orgasm.

6. “The Anvil.” If you like being dominated by your man during sex, this position is for you. To perform the anvil, lie down on your back. Next, raise your legs in the air and use your arms to pull them back towards yourself. Your man will be on his knees and will lean right over you. You can then rest your ankles on his shoulders, so that he is pushing them back on top of you. In this position, he will be able to penetrate you deeper than you could have imagined.7. “The CAT.” The coital alignment technique is very similar to regular missionary sex, but with a few variations. He needs to remain quite deep inside you while you push your pubic bone against him. Then instead of thrusting so much, he needs to grind on you, giving you a lot of stimulation to your clitoris. This makes the coital alignment technique one of the best sex positions for having a clitoral orgasm. It’s also really easy to transition to this position from missionary.

8. “The Jockey.” This one is easy for a woman: just lie back, relax and enjoy it. To perform the jockey sex position, you need lie on your stomach with your rear end raised. Your man then straddles you on his knees and enters you. In this position, your man can penetrate you with a lot of force. This is great for those who climax from really passionate or even rough sex.

He likes it a little blue!!!!!!

 

It is said that men like a women in blue. This color makes the women look happier and vibrant. A recent study shown that 82 percent of men out of 100 likes a woman in blue. So go ahead ladies and spruce up your wardrobe with a few blue pieces and get his attention the right way. Dress up or dress down, either way they like it!

Building Your Wedding Party

You probably already have some idea who you’re going to ask to be your bridesmaids, groomsmen, maid of honor, and best man. You might be trying to narrow down your long list of candidates. Here, I’m going to share some of the newest trends that today’s wedding couples are using to make their weddings more special to them.

* Have two best men and maid of honor, if the groom and bride can’t select between say a brother/sister and best friend.

* The groom and bride can ask mother/father to be maid of honor or best man.

* Skip the lineup of bridesmaids and groomsmen in favor of just a maid of honor and a best man for simpler, smaller weddings. You can also do this with a bigger wedding on a budget.

* Have just the best man and maid of honor, and then a collection of adorable, much loved children in matching flower girl dresses for the girls and matching tuxes for the boys. This is a way to include all of your nieces, nephews, godchildren, the kids you baby sit for, your students, any children who have a big place in your heart!

More tips tomorrow…..

Getting married  is a fun and exciting  time, not only for the bride but also for the groom and wedding party. Wether you have a big wedding or a small private ceremony there are ways to be creative and stay within budget( if this is neccessary for you). I have some tips and suggestions to make your wedding ceremony extra special and more easy breezy. I will be discussing these  things throughout the week and since I recieve numerous messages on this topic, I am so happy to share these things with you! So enjoy!

Wedding Tips  And Tricks

* Halloween may be low on popularity lists for weddings, making it great timing for availability and often great pricing. It also bring your playful side by asking  guests to come in costume,  adding a unique element of fun to your day.

* Marry on your parents or grandparents anniversary, and it’s an honor to their partnerships as well as perhaps a good luck charm.

* Despite travel hassles, Memorial Day weekend or Labor Day weekend are a three to four day weekend for everyone. More time to celebrate!

More tips coming soon…….

Autumn Is Near! So Excited!!

 Fall is approaching and I am so excited as this is my all time favorite season.  I enjoy autumn colors and fashions. It’s something about the crisp air that make me feel inspired and romantic.  I love browns and creams for the fall season! I cannot wait to break out all my clothes that has been hiding in the back of my closet. I am ready! Counting down the days!!!!!!!!!

Interesting Facts For My Followers 08/18/2013

* The trench coat got it’s start in the armed services. As it’s name suggests, the coat was worn by British and French soldiers while fighting in the trenches of WWI.

 

* When it comes to exercise, the wholesomeness of small town living versus the evils of big city living may be more myth than fact. As reported in Medicine & Science in Sports & exercise magazine, nationwide study of leisure time and exercise found that people in large cities had the highest rates of daily activity, while rural residents(especially in the South) had the highest prevalence of inactivity and lowest levels of physical fitness.

 

* If you are walking normally, you take about 70 steps in a minute. That’s 3-4 calories burned each minute.

* Some specialty brands of clothing now have Sun Protection Factor(SPF) rating on their shirts, pants, shorts, and hats. As a rule, dark colors offer more protection than lighter ones , and tightly woven fibers provide more protection than loose woven clothing. If you can see light through a fabric, UV rays can penetrate it.

 

*